On our way home, my friend decided to stop by a convenient store at the gas station and I wanted to go with her to buy some crackers, she was upset and refused to go with me. I was sorry that I upset her and I decided not to go but I don't know what came upon her, she acted weird! She ordered me to buy her a cup of French Vanilla coffee while she waited in the car. I went to the store with great hesitation. This was my first time in a convenient store at the gas station and I had no idea what to do. I read French vanilla on the vending machine; I poured a cup, bought my crackers, paid the bill and then gave my friend her coffee. She had the weirdest look on her face as if I was stupid. I knew something was wrong, tears filled my eyes and I felt deeply hurt with this insult. She went in and apologized for my foolishness and made herself another cup. I had filled the cup with French vanilla cream instead of French vanilla coffee! Seems like a silly incident - hey that incident was the beginning of several insults to follow and this person made me feel so inferior and insulted that I became very possessive about my ethnicity, origin, feminity and I felt the need to constantly prove myself.
One wrong doing, one foolish behavior became a mockery and that mockery turned to insult, insult to hurt and hurt to resentment. Did I have the right to be offended – seems right but the answer is no. I should have let go but letting go like I said in the last post is difficult to do and it really hurts. I didn’t realize that not letting go hurts even more. I had to check my attitude. I tried to tell myself most mornings that I would have the right attitude but hey that day would be the day I would just let go of my emotions (this is not the "let go" that is good for anybody)!
The Bible says, Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: "The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me." For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. This scripture showed me where I was wrong and what I need to do.
1. We are here to do good, good to others and build them up.
2. Christ took all our insults upon him so we can be free.
3. This situation is mentioned in the Bible because it is something we will face and we need to deal with.
4. It is tough and we need to endure it.
5. We need to have hope because we have victory over it.
We need to do unto others what we want others to do unto us. The bible also says that we need to be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above ourselves. When we honor others above ourselves, our attitude will be different. We will be careful not to insult others or feel insulted. I could have smiled at the French vanilla incident and maybe that would have helped me avoid all the other insults and hurt and thus protected myself from developing resentment. I failed but I am working my way to succeed in this area because I have seen my fault and realize what price I have to pay for my choice. Yes, we can choose to be insulted or not, we can choose whether to be hurt or not and we can choose to resent or not! Stop, think, choose, endure and hope for the better. One of my favorite coffees is French Vanilla and now I know where to find it!
One wrong doing, one foolish behavior became a mockery and that mockery turned to insult, insult to hurt and hurt to resentment. Did I have the right to be offended – seems right but the answer is no. I should have let go but letting go like I said in the last post is difficult to do and it really hurts. I didn’t realize that not letting go hurts even more. I had to check my attitude. I tried to tell myself most mornings that I would have the right attitude but hey that day would be the day I would just let go of my emotions (this is not the "let go" that is good for anybody)!
The Bible says, Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: "The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me." For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. This scripture showed me where I was wrong and what I need to do.
1. We are here to do good, good to others and build them up.
2. Christ took all our insults upon him so we can be free.
3. This situation is mentioned in the Bible because it is something we will face and we need to deal with.
4. It is tough and we need to endure it.
5. We need to have hope because we have victory over it.
We need to do unto others what we want others to do unto us. The bible also says that we need to be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above ourselves. When we honor others above ourselves, our attitude will be different. We will be careful not to insult others or feel insulted. I could have smiled at the French vanilla incident and maybe that would have helped me avoid all the other insults and hurt and thus protected myself from developing resentment. I failed but I am working my way to succeed in this area because I have seen my fault and realize what price I have to pay for my choice. Yes, we can choose to be insulted or not, we can choose whether to be hurt or not and we can choose to resent or not! Stop, think, choose, endure and hope for the better. One of my favorite coffees is French Vanilla and now I know where to find it!
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